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Moving on...

Posted by Priyanka Nag on 4:47 AM
Life doesn't necessarily need to go as per our plans. And when those big plans crash bad, things can get pretty tough to deal with.

What I am writing today is nothing unique or being told for the first time. Its just my version of one of the world's most common problems of today's world...a heart-break!



A recent breakup had left me pretty shattered! When we get overly attached to someone, it gets difficult to imagine a life without their presence in it...well, that's pretty normal and that's pretty human! But whats important and what differs from people to people is how they deal with such situations.

For me, after I was stuck in a helpless situation, and after crossing all stages of breakup and finally reaching the "acceptance" stage, I knew I had to do something about it soon to not get into a severe state of depression. So, I tried a few things:

  • Switch to work.
    I always get workaholic when I need to deal with any of life's crisis situations! For me, this works better than alcohol. Work so hard that there is almost no time to think of anything else. Work till you are so tired and you crash the moment you hit your bed. 
  • Work on yourself.
    When we are in love, we often tend to become the person our lovers want us to be...forgetting what we really are or what we would like to be! Its often after a bad breakup that we get some time to give this a thought. I got to this state too. I started wondering around the different things I wanted to try on myself and what changes I wanted to see in me. I tried a lot of things which I was otherwise scared to experiment with. I got myself inked...I got my hair colored...I joined the gym and so on. Every one of these gave me an immense sense of achievement! I loved the changes I saw in the mirror.
  • Take a trip.
    I wanted to go on a solo trip for a while, but never did plan it. A heartbreak can be a real good motivator to make you do things you have been procrastinating for a while. I took a solo trip to Ladakh. Biking on the Himalayan off-routes for 10 days made me discover a whole new me. The totally carefree me that I found during this trip was definitely a happier and better version of the otherwise me who would give too much importance to people or society. 

Well, no breakups can ever be the right thing to happen in anyone's life...but since its a part of life, dealing with it the right way is definitely important.

Have I moved on?

Today, I can really say YES. Not that the thoughts and memories of the past doesn't hurt anymore...ofcourse they do...but I don't cry over them anymore.

And ya...not to forget, I don't intend to hold myself back from falling in love again or stop myself from experiencing those beautiful butterflies in stomach feelings! One thing I have learnt during this journey...there is no hard line of right and wrong. If something makes me happy, its got to be right...its okay if the world disagrees!

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5 years and still counting...the longest stable relationship of mine!!!

Posted by Priyanka Nag on 7:55 AM
One evening, back in 2012, I unwillingly walked into this coffee show. Little did I know that I would meet my one true love there.

I had just attended my first Mozilla event at college. I was pretty impressed by the Web Maker tool. During a casual conversation with one of the organizers, who also was my college senior, he invited me over to a MozCafe meeting happening that weekend. Well, I am not much of a nerd...well, atleast was not back then. The idea of spending a Sunday evening at a coffee shop, among a bunch of geeks didn't really excite me. Due to the lack of a better Sunday plan, I ended up going down there anyway.

At a regular Coffee Day, you can find different types of people....those who are out on coffee dates, those who are catching up with friends and colleagues, those who are out for official meetings etc. But, that evening I found another group of weirdos....the ones who were super charged up and super enthusiastic about something I wasn't yet able to understand! They were throwing all these jargon and terms around the table which were making absolutely no sense to me - NIMO, L10N, SUMO....I don't know what else! OMG! Are these people complete nuts? What are they so excited about? Why are they doing all these work for a company which doesn't even pay them? I didn't understand much of that evening's conversation for sure but I guess I had caught a little of that enthusiasm virus. What was the deal about this non-profit, open source organization called Mozilla? I started doing some research. My curiosity brought me to the next meeting...this time a virtual one. These members of this weird but not-so-secret cult were planning for some big event called the Mozilla Carnival. Somehow, it so happened, that I was the only female attendee at that meeting. They needed a female speaker to cover something called "WoMoz" at this event. I was hesitant but I agreed. I had sufficient time to do my research and I kind of liked public speaking.

The damage was done! I had already got involved! I started doing my research on WoMoz, joining their IRC channel, following their wiki, joining a lot other Mozilla channels and before I knew...I was one of them! By the time I completed by first Mozilla event as a speaker, I was already addicted to it. This drug had totally captivated me.

Five years since then and I didn't even notice it until I sat back to write this post. When someone asks me, its tough to answer why I stuck around for so long or what do I love most about the Mozilla community. But today, I know the energy that I had felt sitting across the table in that Coffee Day...its called passion! Its not free Tshirts, its not free stickers...the driving force here is very different. Its the ideology of open web, its the basic privacy rights that we are fighting for, its the principle of web literacy for all and most importantly its the PEOPLE that form this community...I am in love with all of these! Every time I feel I have contributed enough and its time to stop, I meet someone new in the community...someone with fresh ideas and energy and I get energized again towards that one next task!

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The Travel Experience That Wasn't Fun at All

Posted by Priyanka Nag on 7:50 PM
I had boarded the bus from Swargate (Pune) bus stop on 24th February, at 10pm. While boarding the bus, I had put my luggage in the lower dickey of the bus. 

While deboarding at Majestic bus station (Bangalore) next morning, I realized that my luggage was missing. There were three different passengers whose luggage went missing at the same time. The bus crew apparently had no clue about the missing item.

When we went to the KSRTC office to complaint against this careless behavior, KSRTC decided to not take any responsibility and put the entire blame only on the crew of the bus (3 drivers). Well, this was probably the most disappointing part of the incident. When booking a bus, I never book it because xyz driver would be driving the bus...I book it because of the brand name of KSRTC! And that very name denying to take responsibility and blaming it all on the crew was not at all acceptable.

We tried lodging an official police complaint, but only to realize that there is going to be no good coming out of it. Police gave us clear indication that they won't put much effort searching for 3 missing bags. The only outcome of it would be that the drivers would lose their jobs. The police suggested us to take some compensation from the drivers and not file an official FIR. Well, we all know how our legal system works...so no surprise.

I don't expect to get my bag back...just like I don't believe in miracles or magics but the one lesson definitely learnt is never to travel via KSRTC again. I am saying similar incidences couldn't happen with another travel agent, but the fact that KSRTC cares least about their crew as well as their passengers is enough for me to not trust that brand any more!


Details of missing items:

* 1 white color duffle bag (adidas brand), with 5 shirts, 3 pair of denims, a few Tshirts, 2 pair of shoes and 3 PS3 gaming controllers.

Passenger and bus details:

* Seat # : 36
* Luggage tag # : 067481
* Bus # : KA 57 F-890

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